Showing posts with label Chaos to Calm. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Chaos to Calm. Show all posts

Saturday, September 21, 2013

3 Daily Chores

One of the biggest Ah-ha moments in my home-making career was when I first realized that everything I had to do daily to keep my home looking nice was dishes, laundry, and tidying up.

 
Oh, I was a master at breaking those down into like a bazillion little chores: make bed, fluff pillows, pick up clothes, tidy bathroom counter, wash sink, straighten bedroom, empty dishwasher, re-load dishwasher, throw trash away, put away kitchen clutter, wash countertops, hand wash pots and pans, shine sink....etc., etc., etc.

 At one time I had a chore list three PAGES long!! Hello?!

I felt overwhelmed and defeated All The Time! "I can't do all this," I would complain to God. "Please help me find a better way." I knew I was a mess, I knew I wasn't good at being a home-maker, and I knew I couldn't figure this all out on my own.

I would read blog after blog searching for the perfect chore list. It can't possibly be that simple, I would think. There are hundreds of jobs! How can they only write down a short little list and have a home that looks that nice? I didn't believe it.

Then one day, after praying for years, the thought just sorta settled in my brain; if I would just do dishes, laundry, and pick up stuff laying around...I could live with my house.

See, I was looking for the PERFECT solution, the magic pill, or the list that would get up and do it for me. It was all or nothing for me...a very dangerous way to think...and I would either have every little perfect chore, down to cleaning the baseboards on the list, or a cleaning list wouldn't work for me. I was wrong.

What I really needed, was a list I could easily memorize.
Dishes
Laundry
Tidy Up

Oh, I know there's more to it than that. I know there's more than one step in doing laundry or dishes and more than one room that needs tidying, but I could remember that. I knew there were weekly chores as well, but that wasn't my main problem. I would get sick of something stinking, like the trash or toilet, and just do it, but the mess was "harmless" and could wait.

I began, with my children, just working on those three every day. Some days I would just unload and re-load the dishes and forget about the rest of the kitchen. Sometimes I would clean every counter top and sweep, too. But, I would get in there and just work on the kitchen mess...and I started with dishes. That's all I had to remember: dishes. Then, it was up to me how far I went with it that day. For laundry, I would just make sure there was a load washed and dried every day, even if I piled the clothes somewhere to be folded later...at least they were all clean. Then, I set a timer in all of my main rooms for about 10 minutes and just picked up stuff: 10 minutes in the living room, 10 minutes in the kitchen, 10 minutes in the den, 10 minutes in the dining room, and 10 minutes in the kitchen if it wasn't finished already. If I just couldn't do that long on a given day, I picked up 10 items in each room instead, and the kids helped. Pretty soon it wasn't taking an entire 10 minutes for each room. When it became easier, I added other rooms.

I know this sounds over simplistic...and it IS, but that's what I needed to begin.

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Monday, September 16, 2013

Master Closet Turned Toddler Playroom

You should see the closets in this house...Ahhhhhh!

I mean they are so dreamy! They're huge with built in shelves and ventilation and bright fluorescent lights. Amazing!! When I saw the closets in this house, I thought two things; why in the world did they not post these pics of closet space on Realtor? and I am SO GLAD they didn't put these amazing closet space pics on-line! I think this house would have sold like lightning if it would've been obvious. I know we snatched it right up! We're bargain hunters and we didn't even try that hard. (We at least got 'em down a little, but not like Dave Ramsey-would-be-proud kind of bargain.)

So, when I walked into the master bedroom after deciding this was for us, an idea started developing.

Look at the size of this closet: It's about 9x7
 

Okay...I know, I know...I've seen bigger, too. But when you're used to a closet this size:
 
 
(The left side was Josh's and the right side with the little hanging shelves was mine. I mean, every piece of clothing I had that didn't fit in a dresser was right there: all seasons, maternity, scarves...everything.) 
Why in the world would I need a closet as big as what I got?
So, Josh and I decided to share the men's closet and use the big one for Bubzy's own little play space/room. 
At first we tried putting Bubzy's new little toddler bed in there and making it a tiny bedroom. I started putting the bed together...and Abby turned into Ms. Fix-it and took right over. She LOVED building her own little project and I think she did the whole thing almost by herself.
 




We put a little rug and bean bag chair in the corner and it turned out so cute! Problem was...Bubzy didn't want to give up sleeping in Mom and Dad's bed, and even 7 steps away was too far. He loved it during the day, though and started calling it "Mine". He would go and sit on the bed, swing on the bar he could reach, and pull out toys to play with. We moved the bed right beside ours and we're still in the transition faze of getting him out of our bed, but it's at least possible now. We hope to move it back to this when he's a year older and sleeping on his own regularly.  


So, it pretty much stayed this way, minus the bed, until a week into school. We couldn't keep up with folding the laundry...so we washed, dried, and threw most of it in a basket. We kept stashing them behind the couch and folding little bits as we could. Well...I hosted a Ladies Night Out, and decided to throw all the clean clothes in Bubzy's space. Then we got a huge bag of hand-me-downs for Bubzy that also got dropped in there. That was last Thursday. Then, on Sunday we decided to tear through it to find clean socks and an outfit that would fit Bubzy.  
It looked like this in no time flat! Ahhhhhhh!
 We weren't going to leave it that way long...Bubzy kept going in there looking for his Legos and saying "Mine". I hated to shoo him out of his own little space, but I mean...look at it! (At least they were all CLEAN clothes, right?)
This weekend, we decided to make a project out of it, organizing his new hand-me-downs, looking through the clothes he had out to see what needed to be put away, folding all those neglected clean clothes...wrinkled and all, and make it into Bubzy's own little playroom. We had no idea it would turn into a half day project!

 
Josh was a huge help as he took load after load of clean clothes to the bed to fold...plus other stuff like, "Hey Babe, can you put this way up there for me?"!
 
That much! Oh, no, that was a whittled down pile. Thanks Hun! 
As the clean clothes disappeared from the floor and the fabulous new pile of Bubzy sized clothes were sorted, the floor started to look normal again. It just needed some toy sorting with help from Bubzy and a good vacuuming.
 
 
Now for the RESULTS:
 

 



 






 
 


So...what do y'all think, gals?? We LOVE it!!
 
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Wednesday, September 11, 2013

Moving: Collection of Posts


Left: Our Old House

Right: Our New House that we moved into Summer 2013






I've got to admit...I don't like moving one bit. Well, maybe I like getting into a new house, but the whole process just isn't fun to me. Nevertheless, I've moved several times and have developed ways to make each move a little easier on ourselves. These tips are the ones I go back to because they worked for me. Everyone moves a little differently, so take what works for you and forget the rest.


Looking for more pictures/details? I've linked all of my moving posts below!

  • Start packing in little spurts as soon as you know you'll be moving. I've found it's better to pack 1-3 boxes every day than to crash and burn a month before my departure date. The thing is, I always have more to do right before the move than I think, even if I have been preparing all along. And when that time comes where things just seem to come out of the walls, I sigh a sigh of relief that I'm not also packing the many, many boxes I'm finished with.
  • Set up a packing tub full of the things you'll need as you pack around the house. My tub gets messier as we move closer to moving time, but it's always in one place. Where's the scissors? In the packing tub. Where's that permanent marker? Check the packing tub. I just hate looking all over the house for things right when I'm ready to really start working, and the packing tub cuts down on this quite a bit. You only have to find where you set the packing tub last time you were packing, not the scissors, tape gun, trash bags, markers, etc.
  • Get nice sturdy, easily carried boxes and label them all the same way. We love Barnes and Noble boxes! They were the perfect size to carry heavier items and they weren't too cluttered with ads and words. Plus, they were free. And, I don't spend a lot of time labeling. I use a simple black permanent marker, a notepad, and pen. No fancy notebook set-up for this gal.
  • Don't think you're stuck with only boxes. For example, "packing" blankets and stuffed animals away in big recycle bags places them out of daily use so they won't mess up the house while you're showing it, but still gives you access to padding for big breakables when they get packed later down the road.
  • De-clutter like you've never de-cluttered before. Always keep a donate bag and trash bag handy. Anything you get rid of doesn't have to be packed at all--and believe me, that's worth it. Moving is expensive and tiring no matter how much or little you have, but the less stuff the better!  Every truck load to the trash means a truck load less on moving day. Every van load to the thrift store or donation center means that much less in the moving van. Little stuff takes up lots of space when it's all packed for a move. However, there are a few things I would hold off de-cluttering until after you move.
  • Lighten your workload and schedule as much as you can before starting to show your house.
  • While you're packing, ask yourself often, "If I can live without this in a box for 6 months, do I really need it?" Sure, there will be plenty of things you will want to keep that can be packed; keepsakes, the majority of your books, etc. But, be discerning. Don't pack stuff just because you can. Get rid of more than you think you can.
  • Be willing to let go of plans if they don't work or you feel God tugging you in a new direction.
  • Even when everything seems to be about moving, don't forget to leave it all behind you and go spend some time with your family doing something fun!
  • When un-packing, don't think you have to find the perfect spot the first time. Assign homes to things in a logical manner. As long as you can find them comfortably, you will be able to find and use everything you need and it will stay neater. You can take your time to find a permanent home for things as you settle in and get in a routine. There will be things you learn about your house (like that there's a really convenient trash can right above a great spot for the cutting board) that you won't think of right away. Allow yourself that discovery time before finding permanent homes for your things, but don't leave stuff in boxes. Boxes are the least convenient spot for anything to be usable.

Are you moving or thinking seriously about it? Here, you'll find links to my moving related posts. Plus, at the bottom of this page I've posted a link-up party where you can find all sorts of moving stories or advise.

BIG NEWS!!! Like 2500sqft. type of news! (The house we ended up buying was 3000spft!!)
Choosing a Builder and Initial Goals
Series On Moving
A Weekly Moving Schedule
Prepare For Imbalance
Guilt Free Decluttering
Gentle Decluttering with Children
Moving Supplies
Not Just Boxes
Big Changes to Market Our House
Chaos to Calm in 2 Hours: Whole House
Life Showing Your House
Poor woMan's Way to Pack Stem Ware
When the Move Isn't Smooth
Quick and Easy Box Labeling


Moving Challenges:
Challenge 1: Reducing Your Laundry Load
Challenge 2: Small Kitchen Clutter
Challenge 3: One Tub O' Stuff
Challenge 4: Stuffed Toys, Pillows, and Bulky Blankets
Challenge 5: Attack Something Scary


Our New Home Updates (First Plan):
Our Land! --this plan didn't work out
Pouring the Foundation
Sidewalks, Driveway, and Bunking in the Living Room
Letting Go: A Touch of Sad News

Where We Moved:
The Countdown is HERE!
Renting an Interim House
We're Moved In!
Welcome to our New Home!
New Shelves in the Kid's Playroom

Other:
Before Buying An Older House
Staging a Low Revenue House







Wednesday, April 24, 2013

Yard Before and After, yr2012

It doesn't seem like it's only been 3 1/2 years since we moved in, but it has! And we're just about to move out. It didn't turn out to be our permanent home like we thought, but we're really going to miss this house.

Here's the front yard when we first moved here:

 
And now it looks like this:
 
 
I just love it so much more. I'm going to really miss the light Texas Sandstone exterior. That was my favorite feature of this home. Farewell, beautiful house!
 
 

Townhome: Master Bedroom Before/After

This was our master bedroom in 2007, when we lived in our town home. We moved from a bigger room to a smaller one and just fell in love with the way it turned out.



This was the first time I realized how very much I love grey paint. It was so calming and peaceful.


What was your first decorating project that you were truly proud of? This was mine.

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Saturday, December 22, 2012

Unplug January: Preparations

So, knowing that we're going to almost entirely unplug in January--no t.v. shows, movies, or programs and only 2 hours/week of video games and the like--we've been preparing. How?

Weeeeell, by totally inhaling our favorite shows. The kids knew they had about two weeks, so I let them watch way more t.v. than normal so they could finish out the season they were on in Netflix for their favorite show. I did the same--mine being Bones! I watched an entire season (Season 7) in about a week. Josh isn't so much watching more than normal, but when he's not working I give him first pick. He's getting quite the viewing time, too. His favorites--Wings (because he has a private licence to fly airplanes but NEVER gets to because of the high cost) and Top Gear (really I secretly enjoy watching it with him, I just wouldn't choose it).

So, what shows have we really enjoyed this year?

Josh--as above, Wings and Top Gear, but also Star Trek (a family favorite), oh and Mythbusters
Josh tends to watch casually. He can be interrupted without too much annoyance and watches shows that the kids can easily get into, like Mythbusters and sometimes Dirty Jobs. When it's Josh's pick, the whole family's in here, eating and chatting about the show, roughhousing on the floor, etc.

Me--Bones, Numbers (I really love math), Lie To Me, Warehouse 13, Hoarding or the like, Clean House, and Star Trek. Yep--I have a lot of favorites. When there's a new season, I'm on it!
As you can see, my tv differs from Josh's in a major way. Mine tend to be action-based dramas that tend to be set in a scientific theme. Also, mine aren't so family friendly and when I'm watching it's either after the kids go to bed or when they're occupied with other interest. Sometimes--hard to admit--I tend to find stuff for them to do for a few hours just so that I can watch my favorite show. Not everyday, but when a new one's out it tends to be several days in a row of this. Then I'm back to watching one show a day for a while. Bad, bad t.v. habits on my part.

Abby--Hannah Montana, Good Luck Charlie, her all-time favorite H2O, and her newest favorite The Saddle Club
Abby is the copy-cat of the family and probably the most easily effected by t.v.! After thinking I was already strict enough, I had to drastically reduce her time watching Hannah Montana and Good Luck Charlie. She loved them, but I could see her attitude changing right before my eyes. They are both full of sassy kids who don't have a lot of respect for others (although Hannah Montana was surprisingly better in this area than Good Luck Charlie) and I kept hearing little "harmless" lies throughout these shows. H20 had already been a favorite, but even more so after that. Their attitudes were much better and bad choices were typically shown with consequences. Anyway, she tends to be a lot like me--not much t.v. for good amounts of time, and then she hits on something and has to see them all in a row. She tends to overindulge to the extent that Abram complains that she takes his turn.

Abram--Transformers, Jimmy Neutron (a favorite), some Power Rangers, Transformers reviews (YouTube--shows how they transform) which are watched in plain view just in case, and some documentaries
Abram's way more effected by sugar than shows, but he tends to zone out and I have to snap him back to attention. He'll forget to eat if it's a favorite. The thing I hate the most is that he's super intelligent, but it's far easier to absorb information coming from the television than from books or school assignments. And Abram is all about the easiest route...I'm hoping he'll mature out of this! He's my video game player, too, although I'm usually pretty strict with this already. Sometimes I'll just let him play as much as he wants, about two days a month, but most of the time he plays about two or three hours per week (although I think he plays his ipod touch more at night when he's ready for bed).

Little Bubzy--Barney and Veggie Tales. He watches them almost every morning, asks for them by singing the theme songs, lol. He dances with the songs and then ignores the rest most of the time.

Most preparation is in all the questions that come up:

Do we get to watch t.v. on Saturday morning?
 No, not for the month. We'll see after that.

Are we going to ever go back to watching t.v.?
 Well, we don't plan on throwing our tvs away, but we don't really know how much we're going to allow after this. That's why we're getting off of it for a month--so we're not making blind decisions or decisions based on what we want instead of what's healthy for our family.

Is this because we're in trouble?
No. If anyone's in trouble it's Mom! I watch far more tv than I should and I'm the one that's causing problems because of it. (This stirred a whole night of conversation as they were totally honest and open about how they felt about playing in the back on those nights when I wanted to watch t.v. instead of spending time as a family. This question brought up a lot of emotions that I wasn't prepared for and really solidified in my mind why we were doing this!)

What are we going to do for fun?
More of what we already do--play outside, play more family games and cards, and stuff like that. And then maybe we can start some things we haven't really done much of, like family puzzles, reading a book together, eating a lot more dinners at the table, having more people over, and stuff we haven't even thought of yet.

What about video games?
For now, t.v., movies, and the like are the only completely off-limits things. However, we don't want to just trade one for the other. On normal school weeks y'all play about two to three hours a week--so we'll just limit it to that so it doesn't increase. We can play Wii fit for longer, though since physically being tired will set it's own natural limit.

Some questions, I just thought about privately:

What am I going to do for peace and quite, since that's what usually drives my reasons to turn it on in the first place?
I can still set them to doing an activity or personal study just as I did during these times, but dive into my bible reading instead. I don't suspect the problem is that I need rest for an hour, the problem is when I'm so absorbed that it goes on for more than an hour.
If the weather's nice I can send them outside for a while.
If Josh is home, I can occasionally relax in a bubblebath and read.

What limits do I need to set for myself so that I don't just switch from one zone-out activity to another?
I think my internet time needs to be in sinc with the kid's video gaming time. While they play, I play. I get just as absorbed in blogging as in t.v., mostly because of the pictures. I need to keep all non-writing activities (like browsing, research, picture sorting and loading, linking-up, etc.) to within that 2-3 hours a week the kids are going to be playing video games.

What can I personally do with my free time that's not t.v. related?
I've always wanted my pictures organized. I think that would be a productive use of free time. Also, I could teach myself some new recipes and maybe get Abby involved in some of them.

What can I do to make this experience better for the whole family?
Read from the physical bible instead of just listening to it on my iPad.
Cook enjoyable meals and eat together at the table way more often.
Play with the kids instead of sending them off to play.
More family games, puzzles, and activities.
Read aloud to the kids and start tucking them in at night with prayer.
Create one or more virtual scrap books together and maybe even order one.
Take silly family pictures.
Do some school stuff that's just for fun (like science projects we've put off or educational games that weren't as interesting as the t.v. show we were into).





Saturday, December 8, 2012

Chaos to Calm in the Kitchen



 
Isn't it true that when things get behind in the kitchen, it takes on a life all it's own and can take some serious time and focus to put it all back in order? All the worse if your kitchen is gi-normous like mine!
 
Not that terribly bad, right?
 

Oh wait, there's another side,

...and the breakfast room had plenty of room for all the Christmas decor we pulled out, right?
And never mind that the chairs were used as coat racks, cereal containers are everywhere, and nothing got put back after morning coffee. The ornaments on the floor add a festive touch, too.

Don't be fooled! Once we eat breakfast and pull in the stow away dishes that are hiding in the game room...this will turn into two full dishwasher loads, several hand-wash only pots, and some serious sweat equity to get everything back to NORMAL.

But...over the years I've learned to catch up in the kitchen in a methodical way that shows fast results and keeps me motivated to keep going toward that finish line. Oh, I know I sound dramatic, but you've never had to clean my kitchen. And, y'all don't let your kitchens EVER get this bad, right??

So, here goes. Are your kids fed and juiced? Have you had your caffeine intake for the day? Music or audio bible playing? Cartoons on in the kids Safe Haven? Okay, then we're ready!

How I go from Chaos To Calm in my Kitchen:

Unload the dishwasher.
My children unload the dishwasher for me nine times out of ten, but with the kitchen so behind I can do it a lot faster and without worrying over little things on the floor they could slip on. (Make sure if your children unload your dishwasher that you at least put away the knives and any irreplaceable glass first).



Now, obviously the next thing is to reload my dishwasher, but I look around first. What will make the biggest impact in my kitchen right now? Is it all the kid's plastic ware and drinking glasses? (It usually is, but not this time). This time it's the enormous amount of cooking and baking dishes from Thanksgiving. So, I load anything that's not hand-wash only as my first load. Now, you may turn your dishwasher on right away, but in my older home if the hot water's being used for the dishwasher, I won't have any for the sink. So, I put the soap in and wait to turn it on for when I'm finished with the hot water.



The next thing I do is really clean out and scrub my sink. My children usually do a lot of the lighter dish work and I don't want to worry about all the germs that collect here. It doesn't take long for food ickies in the sink to multiply. A pretty sink also does a lot to motivate me. It's ready to be used and I don't have to worry over the ickies anymore.


The next thing I do is completely clear and clean off the counter to the left of my sink. Now I have a great place to neatly stack the rest of my dirty dishes so they're out of my way. (This was an in-process picture, but it showed where I'm talking about).


Next, I send the kids on a dish hunt all over the house while I gather and neatly stack all of our dirty dishes.


I stack all of my pans and big dishes neatly, throw all my utensils in a big bowl, and stack cups and glasses together. This condenses all the dirty dishes that are waiting for the next load to one place, freeing the rest of the counter space for quick cleaning up. This is also a great time to soak any hard-to-wash dishes if you have any.


Next, I put away my cooking supplies that don't need washing and throw any trash away. These first few steps take care of all the clutter in 90% of my kitchen counter-tops. All that's left on the counters is what belongs and the neat stack waiting for the next re-load.


Now, I work my way around the kitchen, wiping down all of the cleared off counter spaces. Finishing this step brings kitchen stress to a minimum for me and I can finish the rest without worrying about someone stopping by.

After I'm finished here, and usually make sure there's no wet spots on the floor, the kitchen is back to a safe place for the kids to work. I take a break to nurse and put the baby down for a nap and when the dishwasher is finished, I ask Abby to go open it to cool down.


After the dishes cool a bit, it's Abby and Abram's turn to un/re load the dishwasher. They are pros at this, but if your children are too young or new to this, you would want to be in there with them. My children know to leave the knives alone (Abby's 10 and has a few she's comfortable with, but she only handles them standing still. Do you see the knife block to the right of the stove? If she stands on the other side, she can put them away without taking a step.) They load as many as will fit and leave the hand-wash dishes for me.


Bubzy likes carrying around a few cooking utensils. He thinks he's big stuff for helping, too.

After that's finished, I tackle the Christmas boxes. I just want them out of the way and tidy until Josh gets home to put them back up in the garage.

The kids had a few belongings in here, so I stacked them all together and had them make a run to the back of the house to put them away.


Ah...finished. The lighting was a little off, but you get the idea.


 
It's not perfect, but it's back to normal--Chaos to Calm. It took me about an hour in actual work time, a little longer if you count the dishwasher running time (but I don't, because I can do something else during that time). I love a clean kitchen and it's worth my time to jump right in and get it done.
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